Systemic family therapy is a form of counselling that helps individuals, couples, and families understand and reshape relational patterns and behaviours that have developed over time. Therapy does not focus on assigning blame, but on understanding the concerns that have brought you to therapy and exploring meaningful ways forward. It also supports the development of more effective ways of navigating similar challenges in the future.

I work with families, couples, and individuals. My approach views each person within their relational context, life environment, and personal history. Research shows that change is often more sustainable when it is supported by close relationships. Relational patterns that develop gradually may remain unnoticed, yet can have a profound impact.

I provide therapy in English for international clients living in Estonia and abroad.

Family therapy may be helpful in situations such as:

Relationship tensions and conflicts
Communication difficulties or emotional distance
Separation or family transitions (for example, the birth of a child or children leaving home)
Behavioural or adjustment challenges involving children
Crises, loss, or significant life changes
Recurring relational patterns or inner confusion
Improving relationships between adults and their parents

Therapy offers a safe and confidential space where complex and sensitive topics can be explored with care. The aim is greater clarity, improved connection, and meaningful shifts in everyday life.

Sessions may take place:

With the whole family
As a couple
Individually

The number and frequency of sessions depend on your situation and goals. In some cases, a few sessions may be sufficient to gain clarity, while other situations may benefit from a longer process.

Family therapy does not imply that anyone is “broken”. It is an opportunity to pause, reflect, and engage with relationships more consciously.

Therapists do not offer ready-made answers, nor do universal solutions exist for complex human situations. Every individual, couple, and family is unique, as are their challenges. As a systemic therapist, I believe that each person and family holds resources for navigating life’s difficulties. Therapy helps to bring these resources into awareness and supports finding more effective ways of using them.

Change often begins when we decide to pause and look honestly at our relationships.
If you would like to begin family therapy or individual counselling, please get in touch to arrange an initial session. In many situations, earlier engagement makes the process of change more manageable. The direction and pace of the process are always shaped by your needs and readiness.

Practical Information

Sessions in Tallinn, Estonia take place at Koidu 18.

I also work online. However, as communication is often richer when sharing the same physical space, I generally recommend that couples and families attend at least the first session in person whenever possible.

For couples and family therapy / counselling, my fee is 90 EUR per hour. Payment is possible by bank transfer (invoice) or in cash on-site.

Sessions are available in both Estonian and English. Due to my family background, I am also sufficiently fluent in Finnish to use it as a supportive language when needed.

Confidentiality and Professional Ethics

All matters discussed in therapy are treated as strictly confidential. Without prior agreement, I do not disclose any information discussed in therapy or confirm anyone’s participation to third parties. Likewise, information obtained in separate sessions is not shared between family members without explicit agreement.

If we happen to meet outside the therapeutic setting, I will not acknowledge our professional relationship in order to protect client confidentiality. Clients are, of course, free to share their experiences as they wish.

As a standard professional practice, aspects of therapeutic work may be discussed within supervision. Such discussions are conducted anonymously, with all identifying details removed or altered. Confidentiality obligations apply equally within the supervision context. Supervision is an essential component of professional therapeutic practice and serves to ensure the quality of care.

Further details regarding confidentiality and ethical standards are defined by the codes of ethics of the Estonian Association for Family Therapy (EPTÜ) and the European Family Therapy Association (EFTA), which I adhere to as a member of EPTÜ.

Frequently Asked Questions

The duration of therapy depends on the nature of the concern and your goals. Every individual, couple, and family is different, as is the pace of change. Therapy primarily involves working with emotions and interpretations, which do not always follow a predictable timeline.

In some situations, a few sessions may be sufficient. In others, family or couples therapy may evolve into a longer process, particularly when aiming for deeper and longer lasting change. Clients always retain the freedom to conclude therapy when they consider it appropriate.

For couples and family therapy, the initial session may last up to two hours. Follow-up sessions typically range between 90 and 120 minutes. Individual sessions may be shorter.

Sessions may end earlier by agreement if appropriate.

The frequency of sessions depends on the nature and intensity of the issues involved. When starting with new clients, I generally recommend meeting once a week or every two weeks. Longer intervals are often less effective, as the impact of therapeutic work may diminish and require repetition.

In longer-term processes, sessions may become less frequent, with greater emphasis placed on reflection and change between meetings.

My fee for couples and family therapy / counselling is 90 EUR / hour. The total fee is based on the duration of the session.

Not necessarily. Sessions may involve the whole family, a couple, or take place individually. Even individual participation can influence the broader relational system.

However, change is often more sustainable and visible when significant relationships are represented in the therapy room. The participants for subsequent sessions are agreed together based on the needs of the process.

In most cases, yes. Blended families are a common contemporary family structure, yet they involve specific relational dynamics that may generate tension if the people involved expect blended family to function as a “normal” family. These tensions can often be eased through conscious involvement.

Yes. All matters discussed in therapy are confidential in accordance with professional ethical standards. More information in the section “Confidentiality and Professional Ethics” above.

Therapeutic work is often most effective when challenges are addressed early. Family therapy may be helpful both in times of crisis and as a preventative space for reflection, helping to understand recurring conflicts, communication patterns, or relational difficulties.

Family therapy does not offer quick universal solutions or ready-made answers. It requires willingness to pause, reflect, and examine one’s role within relationships.

If the primary expectation is to identify someone to blame or to confirm that only others need to change, the therapeutic process may feel challenging.

All emotions are allowed both in life and therapy. Any emotion does not make you a bad person. Emotions provide valuable information about personal experiences and needs. Therapy often progresses more effectively when feelings are expressed openly.

If you experience frustration, anger, or disappointment within therapy, giving voice to these experiences can become an important part in guiding the process.